Today, we are going to share our article in its entirety to help you know how to plan your dream wedding for $5,000 or Less.

5 Keys to Having Your Dream Wedding for $5,000 Or Less

By: Tim and Lisa Spooner

When we got engaged, we had beautiful dreams of a wonderful wedding. Many of our friends were getting married at the time so we attended their weddings and imagined what our wedding would be like. We wanted our wedding to reflect our special love for one another while giving our family and friends an opportunity to celebrate with us.

The only obstacle to achieving our wedding dreams seemed to be our very limited financial resources. In a community where the average cost of a wedding was more than $24,000 the huge cost of a wedding loomed in front of us like a locked door blocking the path to our dream wedding. It seemed ridiculous to sink so much money into our first day of married life. Yes our wedding day would be special but should it warrant such wild spending? We refused to believe that wedding dreams should have to be purchased at such a high cost that would inevitably put a pinch on our newlywed finances.

After consulting both of our bank accounts, we agreed that we could comfortably afford to spend up to $2,000 on our wedding day.

We chose to believe that we could achieve all our wedding dreams by using just five keys. These keys made our dream wedding possible. Since then, we have helped thousands of brides and grooms use these very same keys to unlock the door to their dream weddings.

Key #1: Know Your Budget

Wedding spending can be a very slippery slope. Unless you know exactly how much you can afford for each aspect of your wedding it will be very difficult for you to say no to all kinds of upgrades and add-ons. Before you know it, the dream wedding you imagined will have turned into a monster with a life of its own and your wedding expenses will have snowballed out of control.

You should carefully consider how much you want to spend on your wedding. Keep in mind that after the wedding thank you notes are written you will be faced with everyday bills like rent and everyday problems like a car breaking down. Do your best to make sure that the expense of your wedding isn’t a part of these financial stresses.

You can easily find a helpful wedding budget online that will calculate how much of your overall budget should be applied to each aspect of your wedding.

Your budget should guide how much you spend on each part of your wedding planning. You will be amazed to discover that simply knowing your spending limits will open up great doors to savings that you never knew existed.

Key #2: Know What You Want

The wedding world is full of all kinds of marketers trying to persuade you to believe that what they are offering is essential to the success of your wedding.

Before you get swept along like a flower petal on a river, anchor yourself by thinking about what is really important to your wedding.

Ask yourself why you want to have a wedding ceremony and reception. What is keeping you from simply visiting the justice of the peace or taking a trip to Las Vegas? Once you know why you want a wedding ceremony and reception you can start to envision what your wedding day should be like.

You need to know what goals your wedding is meant to achieve. If one of your goals is to have a fun celebration of your marriage with your family and friends, then you will want to focus on making your reception everything you want it to be. If another goal is to have lots of beautiful photographic memories of your wedding day, then you will want to make sure that you hire a good photographer and choose a venue with beautiful background scenery.

You probably have more than one goal for your wedding but if you think carefully about it you should be able to think of one primary goal for your wedding. The purpose of our wedding, for instance, was to be an occasion for our guests to celebrate our marriage with us. Once you know the primary goal for your wedding, you can make sure that all of your other wedding goals support your wedding’s overall purpose.

You can then design your wedding with your primary purpose in mind. Knowing what you really want from your wedding will allow you to focus your wedding dollars and your energy on what is really important to making your wedding dreams come true.

Key #3: Know Your Resources

Even if you are not expecting either of your parents to pay for your wedding, you should still check in with them to find out if they are able to contribute in any way. You might be surprised to find out that they were waiting for you to come to them and invite them to help you reach your wedding planning goals. They may be able to offer to pay for a certain aspect of your wedding such as the wedding cake or the wedding dress. Or they might be able to write a check to cover some portion of your wedding costs. They might be able to give you a tip on where you can get a great deal on your wedding and reception venues. Bottom line is that you won’t know until you ask. Don’t make the mistake of assuming that your parents can’t help.

As you think about the various roles that need to be filled at your wedding ceremony and reception, try to think of family members and friends who would do a great job filling each position. Don’t forget about classmates, co-workers, and members of your church. Among all of these people you will surely know a crafty individual who could arrange your flowers, a musician, or someone who can fill any other role in your wedding planning.

People are often generous when they know who they are helping and will give you a great deal on the service you need. Just be sure to express heart-felt thanks for any services provided to you at special pricing. You may even want to give a thoughtful thank you gift to individuals who are particularly generous.

As you think about a location for your ceremony or reception, try to also think about which of your friends and family members are associated with that venue. If the owners of the venue know you or someone you know they are more likely to give you a special discount price when you ask to use their location.

Key #4: Know What to Spend Your Energy On

Planning a successful wedding can take up a lot of time and energy. You should try to delegate time consuming projects like flower arranging and table decorations to willing helpers. You will stay busy enough just coordinating and overseeing everything.

Most of your friends would love to help you with your wedding in some way. They are probably waiting to be invited to have a part in your wedding planning and you won’t know it until you ask them.

We were talking with a friend today who told us that she assumed her friends did not want to help her with her wedding because they were not approaching her with offers to help. As a result, she ended up asking only three of her friends to be a part of the wedding planning process. She told us that after the wedding she found out many of her friends were disappointed that they were never invited to have a part in her wedding planning. They were all hoping to help with the wedding in some way but did not feel right interfering with the bride’s plans.

As the bride, it is your responsibility to ask for help. Don’t wait for your friends to come to you – they probably won’t, even if they would like to be a part of your wedding planning team.

You of course do not want to burden any of your friends with too much work. But if you carefully choose friends to help out with key parts of your wedding planning that fit their particular skills and interests, you will find that they’ll consider it an honor to be a part of your wedding planning team.

Just make sure that you honor them in turn by giving them some creative freedom, giving them your time, and by expressing how much they mean to you and how much you appreciate their help.

You could even have some of your friends over for a craft party. Your friends can come over to help you put together a craft that you will give away as favors. You can express your appreciation by providing snacks and buying pizza. This will save you a lot of time while giving you a chance to have a great time with your friends.

By getting your friends and family involved in helping with your wedding planning, you will be freed up to focus on making sure that everything comes together the way you have envisioned for your wedding day.

Key #5: Know Where to Get the Best Deals

When we were planning our wedding, we looked into buying a unity candle along with family candles. We found that the simplest unity candle sets were selling for about $30.

Then we went to the local crafts and hobbies store where we bought the candles we wanted and the desired decorative enhancements for just $7.

At home we assembled them and had our very own unity candle set for just a fraction of the cost that most brides were paying for similar unity candles.

If you are willing to assemble a few pieces, you can find much of what you need at a crafts store where you will pay just a fraction of what you would pay for a ready-made wedding item.

Also keep in mind that your reception is really just a specialized party event. Instead of paying the big bucks for a “wedding reception” table cover, why not take a look at a party store where you will find a “party” table cover at a much lower cost. The only difference will be that it won’t be packaged in a box that says “wedding” on it.

Second-hand is another great way to go when purchasing items for a wedding. Most wedding items are only used one time and then put in storage. Eventually, the owner of the wedding item gets tired of storing it and puts it up for sale on eBay or in the classifieds section of the local newspaper. Check out eBay and the classifieds and you can find anything from tulle to a bridal gown good as new for bargain prices.

An Open Door to Your Wedding Dreams

The five keys we have outlined for you can unlock the door to your dream wedding. Like us, you can grab a hold of those five keys and move forward with planning the wedding of your dreams at whatever cost you are comfortable with. Even if you can only afford to spend $5,000, $3,000, or less than $2,000 like us, your dream wedding is very possible with the five keys we have shared with you.

Now  we want to announce the release of our honeymoon budget calculator. You will love how easy it is to use this super smart honeymoon budget planner.

It applies all the beloved features of our wedding budget calculator and adapts them to the special needs of honeymoon planning.

While you are over there checking out the honeymoon budget tool, be sure to also check out all the other great tools and information available at our new honeymoon website:  Best Honeymoon Deals

Furthermore it was all for a good cause as the money went towards supporting the Atlanta Children’s Shelter. Guests of the bride and groom were encouraged to donate a monetary gift or gently used household items to help out the families at the children’s shelter.

This charity event was the first of its kind and has earned national attention (see below). We think it’s such a smart and needed idea that we expect to see more organizations follow suit with their own charitable wedding events.

Wouldn’t it be amazing if more people and organizations became super creative like the Atlanta Children’s Shelter and wedding planner Sylvia Wayfer-Clark (working for Weddings by Stephanie Marie) so that couples could easily have a beautiful wedding and reception for just a couple hundred dollars if that was all they could afford?

We hope this is the beginning of a new trend among charitable organizations so that couples have more options.

We understand that this is not for everyone — not everyone is willing to get married at 2 in the morning! But it really feels good to see people getting creative and figuring out ways to help one another get married without going into debt.

For a powerful guide to getting married within your means we encourage you to download our wedding planner ‘Wedding Planning on a Budget’.

You can learn more about the 40-40-40 wedding event at their website and by watching the video clips below:

Media buzz before the event:

Media buzz after the event:

With just a little creativity you can come up with stunning reception centerpieces that are quite affordable.

To inspire you, we are sharing some videos today.

First, here are two videos that show a variety of centerpiece possibilities.

Wedding Reception Centerpieces Video 1

Wedding Reception Centerpieces Video 2

You may or may not find some of these ideas to your taste but again we just want to help get your creative juices flowing. In fact, sometimes knowing what you Don’t Want is half the battle!

Now we would like to share two videos demonstrating how to create nice looking centerpieces for your wedding reception.

Wedding Reception Centerpieces Video 3

Wedding Reception Centerpieces Video 4

Nowadays restaurants have private rooms that can be rented. Most hotels for weddings offer special rental packages for their restaurants, including advice for planning your wedding day. Others have a beautiful back garden if you desire a garden wedding. These are among the best budget friendly wedding locations. Pick a restaurant that you and your man frequent then have them reserve a certain day for the ceremony. Some restaurants will be delighted to do the catering as well for a reasonable price. This is a way to share with family and friends your special place.

The Park

Parks have become a common place as wedding locations because all a couple will pay is a small nominal fee. Most parks are decorated with vintage fountains, lovely picnic areas for guests and are easily accessible. If you intend to go with the park idea, make sure you settle for one with a covered patio and well presentable.

Theater Halls

If you have been to a theater you will notice that this is a romantic place to stage your perfect wedding. Getting married on the theater stage will be breathtaking and you will also be supporting the arts department. Some common theater halls being used these days include the Brooklyn Academy of Music. The second floor of this theater hall is perfect for the wedding reception. If you are a local resident in New York, you will be offered a steep discount. When selecting a theater hall, pick one that reflects your theme, for example an old theater will bring in that vaudeville charm while the modern ones will offer a contemporary theme. For non residents the fees charged here are low and mainly used to maintain the building. With a good decorating team you can turn a theater hall into one of the most magical wedding locations.

Former College

Where you attended college I am sure your institution had an alumni hall or perfect chapel. Why not grace your occasion at your alma mater for merely pennies. Most colleges charge alumni very little while non alumni will still find it affordable. Your former college will be honored to have their student wed on campus and will do anything to make things easier for you.

Unusual locations

While dating your man, there must have been places you loved to go. It could be on the farm or at a certain amusement park. These locations are hardly used for weddings and when you inquire with the management about hosting your own they will be thrilled. The mere fact that people do not stage weddings here will give you a chance to score a big discount on the fee.

Weddings do not have to be too costly, with these few ideas you can make your day one to remember. Use these to save enough in order to get that amazing wedding dress instead.

All you have to do is enter how much you want to spend on your wedding and the spreadsheet will automatically tell you about how much you should spend on each part of your wedding.

You can start using the wedding budget here>>> My Wedding Budget

If you prefer to create your own customized wedding budget spreadsheet, you should follow a wedding budget creation tutorial such as this one:

But in all honesty, you will probably find that the wedding budget spreadsheet we have created for you is flexible enough to meet all your wedding planning needs. You can enter new titles and you can change how much of your wedding budget is assigned to each part of your wedding. This makes our wedding budget calculator very user friendly.

Let us know what you think and please recommend any ways that we can improve this wedding budget tool for you.

Is the idea that a wedding has to be a $30,000 staged luxury event keeping some couples from tying the knot until they have more money or the economy improves?

We have heard from some couples who have been engaged for years and are still putting off their wedding date primarily for financial reasons. They didn’t think that they could afford their dream weddings and didn’t want to give up on their dreams either so they were waiting and waiting.

It naturally takes a young couple just starting out a long time to save 20-30k for a wedding so, often, they continue to wait until they finally decide that they really need to just get married.

Usually at this point they start looking for ways to plan their dream wedding at an affordable cost — that’s when they find us.

Wedding Planning on a Budget

The truth of the matter is that this idea that a nice wedding event has to cost tens of thousands of dollars is simply not true.

The problem is that many brides and grooms often do not have the discipline to stay within their wedding budget.

Most brides and grooms have an idea of how much they can afford for their wedding but they do not have a plan for achieving their goal and end up spending twice as much as they expected.

They have an attitude that as long as they are going to go into debt for their big event they might as well go all out.

What they don’t know is that most brides and grooms do not spend anywhere near as much money as these numbers we hear in the media.

You see, when you hear that couples on average spend $30,000 (now, it’s closer to $20,000 with this recession), you think that the average couple spends that much on their wedding. Not so!

Back when we were hearing that the average cost of a wedding was nearly $29,000, wedding industry insiders could have told you that actually 4 out of 5 couples would spend less than that. In fact, a full 50% of couples would spend less than HALF of that!

We suspect that this is still the case with today’s national average of $20,398. So, the average couple spends much less than the average cost of a wedding. It is the not-so-average couples from wealthy families that skew these numbers. (statistics from TheWeddingReport.com )

But the wedding industry doesn’t make money by putting brides and grooms in touch with reality — the wedding industry makes money by telling couples that this is the most important day of their life and that it is their once in a lifetime opportunity to make their dreams come true.

At least that has been their strategy. Perhaps the strategy will change now that they have a bunch of couples fooled into thinking that they cannot afford to get married.

According to a recent FindLaw.com survey, 40% between the ages of 18 and 34 say they are waiting to get married and have children due to the current economic climate. So, there are a lot of couples out there who aren’t giving the wedding industry a dime right now because they think they have to save up for a wedding costing a small fortune.

Is it ever smart to delay a wedding just because you haven’t saved “enough?”

Couples need to be financially responsible; however, they must also be practical about their relationship. Couples need to be aware of extra stresses on their relationship while they are waiting to tie the knot.

They have chosen to live the remainder of their lives together and it is natural for them to want to begin experiencing as soon as possible the complete unity found in marriage.

Some couples seem to be able to tolerate long waits while they are saving up for the wedding and honeymoon. Others find the waiting period to be stressful and uncomfortable and are eager to discover how they can achieve their dream wedding at an affordable cost.

On the other hand, is it ever smart to go into debt for a wedding?

We think that couples understand better now the importance of avoiding wedding debt. Job security is at an all-time low and couples now realize that they cannot assume that they can be happy living with wedding debt hanging over their marriage.

We know that financial troubles are very much connected to marriage troubles. The two go hand in hand. That is why we find it so sadly ironic when couples go into debt on their wedding day of all times. They create debt trying to start a happy life when in fact that debt will invariably produce stress and tensions in their new life together making it more difficult than ever for them to have a happy marriage.

Brides and grooms should keep in mind that whether they are on a tight budget for their wedding now or not, they will very likely be on a tight budget once they are married and trying to build a life together. Will they remember their marriage day as a happy event in their life? Or will they wish they had a way to go back in time and spend their money more wisely so they wouldn’t be starting their new life together with so many financial headaches?

We feel that there is an unfortunate superstition among brides that their wedding day will foretell the quality of their future married life together. They feel that if they have a ‘perfect’ wedding day then they can expect a ‘perfect’ married life together.

This superstition does not hold up under analysis and if that ‘perfect’ wedding day was achieved through debt then it may more likely predict a difficult life together with some real struggles ahead.

Are parents still paying for these $30,000 affairs?

Even before the recession, many couples were paying for their own weddings. TheKnot.com did a survey of 18,000 couples married in 2008 that reveals that 43% of couples were paying for their own weddings. 44% of the brides were receiving help from their parents and 12% of the grooms’ parents also contributed.

Whether the parents will be paying or even contributing to the wedding costs has always depended on a number of factors.

First, is the couple financially dependent on the parents? If so, they are more likely to have their wedding taken care of too. However, the marriage age is rising and most young people have left the nest and are on their own by the time they get married.

Couples who have started their careers and have left the home or have independent attitudes will probably not receive much help from their parents because their parents feel like the couple can take care of themselves or because the couple themselves feel like they should provide for their own wedding needs.

Second, we should ask if the parents’ are financially able to pay for a wedding. With many parents getting laid off and seeing their stock-market based retirement funds shrivel up, they may not be able to help much, if at all, with the cost of a wedding. Also the young adults are not as likely to seek help from their parents when they know that their parents are struggling to make ends meet.

The percentage of couples paying for their own wedding expenses has been steadily rising and we expect to see this trend continue.

It isn’t common wisdom, but we wouldn’t be surprised to see the cost of weddings drop further even after this recession as more young couples take responsibility for their own wedding costs.

Paying for an event out of your own bank account (instead of your parents’) has a way of making people more practical.

We hope the weddings of the future are not so much about things that money can buy but more about celebrating love and unity with friends and family.

Anyone who wants to have a beautiful special wedding can easily achieve their goals without going into debt. We see it all the time with the couples that visit the resources on our site and share their success stories with us after using the guidance available in our Seven Wedding Planning Secrets mini-course and our instantly downloadable book ‘Wedding Planning on a Budget.‘

Couples are happily surprised to find that their wedding day is actually even more special to them because they had to prioritize and plan the day for the purpose of celebrating their marriage commitment (not just a showy event) and they find that their wedding day is not impersonal but truly reflects who they are because they put their own special touch on each aspect of the carefully planned day.

Planning a Wedding Just Got Easier

By David C. Reynolds

The first mistake a newly engaged man makes is to believe and follow the ‘accepted norm’ that women relish planning their wedding and all men have to do is nod and say yes to everything and figure out a way to pay for it. While this ‘customary norm’ does not necessarily guarantee divorce down the road, it certainly serves to steer you in that direction from the get-go.

Why? Because women want their men to be more than just the man in the tux at the alter and they want them to actually SHARE in the planning of their special day.

Wedding Planning on a Budget

Men hear this and want to run in the opposite direction – thinking ALL sorts of conflicts will ensue if they try to share in the planning. Or that they will be over ruled every step of the way anyway.

Women however will tell you that they want their future spouse to be involved in the planning – not always in the decision making, but at least in the planning. This carries forward to their married years also – men who are distant from family decisions tend to be less supportive. And in the end, this is what most women want above all else – support.

Even if you don’t agree, it is better to go through the decision making process together than to leave one party with all the decisions. If for no other reason than the one decision maker gets tagged with all the blame if something doesn’t work just perfectly. Many a bride has burned themselves out before the honeymoon ever arrives because they had to do ‘everything’.

Weddings are NOT something most men growing up desire to plan. For many, the sheer enormity of the planning makes them ill. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Many men realize that just engaging in the process pleases their future bride and tends to smooth the relationship road over the long term, a road that we all know can get quite bumpy.

Listening and communicating are traits most women say they desire in a man and the smart man is one who offers these from the very beginning of the wedding planning process.

This process is most likely going to end with a lot of ‘give and take’, so the best plan is to start giving and taking early on and establishing a wholesome pattern for the rest of your married life.

We recommend avoiding the A-list / B-list method of inviting people if you can. But we understand that for some brides and grooms it may be very tempting to give this a try in order to accommodate a small venue or a tight budget.

The tricky thing is making sure that no one discovers that they were on the B-list — in fact, you don’t want anyone to even suspect that there is a B-list!

One way to do this is to make sure that you keep each social circle together on one list or another. For instance, your work colleagues should all either be on the A-list or on the B-list. If you make the mistake of inviting one of your co-workers with the A-list and have the rest of them on the B-list, then they are all going to be wondering why they didn’t get an invitation yet.

Since social circles intersect this can really get messy.

Another problem is that the success of this method of inviting people to your wedding is entirely dependent on each person faithfully RSVP’ing.

Realize that many of those invited will not be great about RSVP’ing. They will assume that “of course they know I’ll be there for their big day” OR “I’m sure they don’t need to know that we aren’t going to be able to make it.”

This can make the A-list / B-list option a bit challenging.

If you decide not to have a B-list, we recommend inviting about 15-25% more people than you hope to have at your wedding. Chances are only about 75-85% of the people will be able to make it.

You should also send an invitation to relatives and close friends even though they will obviously not be able to make it. For instance, send an invitation to your aunt and uncle who live on the other side of the country. They will be happy to have an invite from you as a token of your wish that they be a part of your big day.

Here is an article about list management that we think you will find a big help:

Gracious Ways to Manage a Wedding “B” List
by Guy Antonelli

It is a fact of life: when you are planning a wedding, you can rarely invite everyone that you would like to. Either the budget is too small, the venue is too tight, or your family is just too big. One way that some couples handle this dilemma is by grouping their wedding guest lists into “A”s and “B”s.

In a nutshell, the “A” list is the group of people that you will definitely be inviting to your wedding. This group usually includes your immediate family, attendants, close friends, and the random people that your parents insist on inviting to your wedding because they are paying for it. The “B” list will typically be people that you would like to have, space permitting. “B” lists are generally populated by people such as more recently acquired friends, old college chums you haven’t seen in a while, and your co-workers.

The way to create the “A” list is to add up everyone that you must have at your wedding, and then keep going with names from your extended circle until you have hit the limit of either your venue or budget. Do this as if every single person on the list will actually be coming (which of course, they won’t). In other words, if your venue can only seat 110 people, then your list should have exactly 110 names on it – and don’t forget to include the bride and groom in this head count! You now have your “A” list.

Anyone who did not make the initial cut is now officially on your “B” list. Okay, so far, so good. As the R.s.v.p.s start to roll in from the first set of invitations, you can invite one person from the “B” list for each declined invitation. From here on in, things can get a little trickier. The wedding invitations need to be sent out to the “A” list well in advance of your wedding date, usually at least 8 weeks, but sometimes even more. Where it gets dicey is that you have to finagle responses from all of the guests on your “A” list much earlier than usual – four weeks before the wedding at the minimum. If people ask why you need to have your answers so early, blame the caterer; whatever you do, never let on that you have a “B” list waiting in the wings.

Let me repeat: no one should know about the “B” list (though some may suspect, based on the timing of the invitations). It is not improper or poor etiquette to have an “A” list and a “B” list, however it would be terrible if any of the “B” listers were made to feel like they were your second choice guests. This means that when you are sending out the invitations, you must do so based in part on the social and familial circles of your invitees. You can’t invite your friend Sally eight weeks before the wedding, but send out a last minute invite to her sister Margaret. If people are going to talk, put them both on either the “A” or “B” list together to avoid hurt feelings.

Some people find the idea of two separate guest lists to be highly offensive. If you feel this way, then there are a few other paths that you can take. One of the nicest things that a couple can do is to scale back on the luxury of the wedding to be able to include everyone who is near and dear to them. Maybe you have to have your reception in a mid-range hotel instead of a ritzy private club, but in the end, you may find that who you have at your wedding is more important than where you have it.

Other couples will find other cost-cutting solutions to be able to expand their guest list. For instance, you can have a brunch instead of a sit-down evening reception. Another way to cut expenses is to order your bridesmaid jewelry sets online. You can find truly beautiful handcrafted bridesmaid jewelry sets made from Swarovksi crystals and freshwater pearls – they will look like a splurge, but can actually be very affordable bridesmaid gifts. Some other things that you can order online to save on costs include wine (depending on the laws of your state), invitations, and wedding jewelry for the bride.

Whether you decide to have a two part guest list, or simply to cut your expenses so you can expand your guest list, the key is to be gracious. If you do have an “A” and a “B” list, be careful to keep that piece of information private. As long as you make all of your guests feel welcome and wanted, your wedding is sure to be a fabulous success.

Guy encourages you to visit www.SilverlandJewelry.com for lots of wedding jewelry ideas. He points out that Bridesmaid jewelry sets make a thoughtful gift from the bride.

They were all essentially the same: If you don’t do this or that or if such and such happens, then you will not have a happy marriage.

Here are a few examples of popular wedding superstitions…

1. On our wedding day we had a guest complaining that we should not have scheduled our ceremony for the noon hour because apparently it is bad luck to get married while the minute hand is falling. Instead, you should say your vows when the minute hand on the clock is going upwards. This makes you work together in your married life together.
2. Another superstition is that if it rains on your wedding day then you will shed many tears during your married life.
3. Alternatively, rain on your wedding day may mean that you will be blessed with many children. …Do you think the many children and many tears are connected somehow? just kidding.
4. We have also heard it said that if your wedding dress is ripped on your wedding day then your marriage will end in death. Sounds horrible but shouldn’t that be the goal?
5. It is supposed to be a bad omen if the newlywed wife stumbles as she walks into the house – that is why she is carried over the threshold.
6. It is recommended that a bride put a penny in her shoe to ensure wealth in her marriage.
7. It is popularly considered bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding ceremony.
8. Another superstitious belief is that it is good luck for the bride to get married in white.

Whether superstitious or not, we find that many brides have an unspoken expectation that if their wedding day is perfect then they can expect a perfect marriage.

Like the above superstitions, it is silly to think that your wedding day has to be perfect in order to enjoy a perfect marriage.

Of course, you should want your wedding day to go well. But don’t put so much pressure on your wedding day.

If only it were as simple as having one good day to make all the future days of your marriage go well too. The truth is that you will have to put a conscious effort and energy into each and every successful day of your marriage.

As you plan your wedding and even on your wedding day, don’t assume that your wedding planning efforts and perfect ceremony and reception are giving you a perfect marriage. Your preoccupation with wedding planning may be hard on your relationship. Make sure that you are finding quality time for one another and that you haven’t lost sight of the one thing that will give you a happy marriage: Loving Commitment to the Successs of Your Relationship

To show you how we have achieved a very happy marriage (going on 6 years now) despite violating quite a few wedding superstitions, we want to give you a copy of our newest book: The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage: How to Keep that Honeymoon Feeling

Do you know of any wedding superstitions to share with us?

We would also be interested to know your opinion of wedding superstitions?

Every participant was a winner.

By posting a comment to the blog entry sharing why they needed to save money and what they were doing to save money on their wedding, each respondent received a set of three prizes including our book The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage

Meet the 2nd Place Winner

Our 2nd place winners are Steve and Anne who plan to get married this fall.

They are on a super tight budget for their wedding with an allowance of just $2,000.

Their tip to other brides and grooms on a tight budget is to use Craigslist for your wedding purchases. Anne writes, “So far, I have bought a wedding dress, shoes and veil, all unused, off of Craigslist for a total of $125!”

Steve and Anne’s lucky entry has won them The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage and the wedding planner’s perfect companion Wedding Planning on a Budget.

And the 1st Place Winner

Steven and Mishia are the very lucky winners of our complete set of marriage starter books.

Mishia writes of their love story: “We met in Junior High and were best friends since! A few years ago our friendship became something more and I could not be happier! He proposed on Valentine’s day last year and it has always been my dream to have a Winter Wedding!”

This romantic couple will be married on December 19th of this year.

Steven and Mishia hope to plan their dream wedding for less than $5,000. As Mishia says, “I need to save money so that we can have money for other things such as bills!”

The set of books they won should help them meet their wedding planning goals. They are receiving a full set of our three marriage starter books Wedding Planning on a Budget, The Ultimate Honeymoon on Any Budget, and The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage.

Congratulations and Thank You!

To each and every one of our book giveaway winners, we give a hearty congratulations and heartfelt thank you.

The comments you posted about your experiences in planning your dream weddings on a budget will be helpful to everyone who takes the time to read your comments.

We wish every reader of this blog post a beautiful, dream-come-true wedding. You don’t have to be a winner of our book giveaway to get your hands on our books. You can download the books for yourself and learn how to start out your marriage right while saving money.

Sweet Nothings by Blue together with Blueline Weddings is offering one Reckless & Romantic couple a complete wedding package in Hawaii.

You just have to be willing to take care of your flight expenses and be, well… a bit reckless – Be willing to throw your wedding plans to the wind and hop a plane to Hawaii to get married on Thursday, August 6th.

If you are The Reckless & Romantic type, then you should consider the following Hawaii wedding package giveaway.

The complete Hawaii wedding package includes all of the following:

• Full Wedding Day Coordination and complete design consultation with Bride and Groom
• Wedding Day Photography by Blueline Weddings
• Video coverage of ceremony by Blueline Weddings
• Album
• High Resolution CD of all images
• 2 nights stay in Hotel
• Bridal Hair and Makeup
• Champagne for after ceremony
• Reckless Photo Session
• Ceremony Site
• Officiant
• Paperwork help and payment
• Bridal Bouquet and boutonniere

This is worth over $10,000!

Winners will be responsible for travel expenses to Hawaii.

Winner will be announced first week of July.

To be considered for this wedding package send Erin your entry at erin@bluelinestyle.com and answer all the questions below as well as send a picture of the both of you!
 
Include both Bride and Groom’s information.

Send your favorite picture of yourself — both bride and groom.
 
name:
phone number:
email(s):
 
Why do you want to elope?
 
What do you consider the most important part of your wedding day?
 
What are your favorite things to do together?
 
How would your friends describe you as a couple?
 
Do you have a favorite wedding picture you’ve seen before?  If so, send it to us!
 
Do you both like getting your pictures taken?
 
Have you checked out Blueline Weddings? 
 
Do you dig a higher fashion feel to photography?
 
Are you ok with someone else planning your wedding?

Erin plans to announce the winner the first week of July, so you will want to send your entry ASAP.

Our understanding from talking to Erin is that there haven’t been many applicants yet even as the deadline is quickly approaching so we think anyone who applies has a good chance – your chances will obviously improve if you take care to submit a high quality application.

We wish you luck and encourage you to contact Erin with any questions at erin@bluelinestyle.com

As a way to thank everyone for their interest in our books and as a way to help each of you to have the opportunity to benefit from the savings made possible by our books, we want to end this month with a book giveaway.

The best part is that everyone wins!

Prizes will be as follows…

1st Prize

A set of our three books Wedding Planning on a Budget, The Ultimate Honeymoon on Any Budget, and The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage.

2nd Prize

Two of our books Wedding Planning on a Budget and The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage.

Participation Prize

Everyone who enters will win something. All participants will receive The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage and a coupon for 25% OFF the price of Wedding Planning on a Budget and The Ultimate Honeymoon on Any Budget.

How to Enter

To enter, respond to one or both of the following questions by posting a comment to this blog entry:

1. Why do you need to save money on your wedding?
2. What are you doing to save money on your wedding?

Deadline and Other Details

All comments must be posted by 11:59:59 EST July 1 to be included in this contest.

One entry per person is allowed. If you must post more than one comment, all of your comments will only be considered one entry.

All entrants who follow the rules of this contest will be included in a random drawing to select the 1st and 2nd prize winners.

1st and 2nd prize winners will be  notified by July 10 and announced by July 17. We will ask the 1st and 2nd prize winners to submit a photo and give us a few basic details to share in the winners announcement blog post. If we do not hear back from a 1st or 2nd prize winner by July 14, a runner-up will be given the opportunity to win the unclaimed prize.

All participants will receive their prizes by July 17.

Good Luck!

We wish you luck and hope you take a moment to post your comment. Remember, everyone who responds to one or both of the above questions by July 1 will be entered for the drawing and receive the participation prizes. If you know anyone who is engaged, then you should let them know about this opportunity too.

To enter, visit www.mirassou.com/sayido for a chance to win $10,000, a trip to New York for a wedding planning day with Brides.com senior editor Anne Chertoff, and eight elegant place settings of Reed & Barton dinnerware, flatware and crystal!

We announced this contest before back in February but want to give this Last Chance reminder to any qualified brides and grooms who haven’t entered yet.

Here are three short videos offering a taste of the valuable advice that Brides.com editor Anne Chertoff has to offer the winner of this contest:

Wedding dress trends from Brides.com and Mirassou:

Wedding flower trends from Brides.com and Mirassou:

Wedding cake and wine pairing trends from Brides.com and Mirassou:

To enter, visit www.mirassou.com/sayido

We wish you the best of luck!

They may also want to give a gift to anyone who is going above and beyond in helping with the wedding. We for instance, gave a gift to the videographer who provided his services at cost as well as the minister who provided his services for free.

We recommend making each gift as personal and meaningful as possible. You are trying to show appreciation to the people you cannot thank enough. You need to move well beyond monetary value and attach, instead, sentimental value to each of these gifts.

We, for instance, bought some wooden desk clocks and wooden stools. By themselves they were rather inexpensive and unimpressive. But we added a lot of sentimental value to these items by refinishing the wood and burning our names and the date of our wedding into the wood.

What we really did was attach our wedding day and ourselves to these items in a material way to indicate that the people who received these gifts were very important to us and our wedding day. Understanding the sentimental meaning attached to these gifts, those who received these items would treasure them just as we treasured the people to whom we gave these gifts.

Another great way to attach sentimental value to a gift is to make the gift a reminder of a happy memory.

For instance, Tim’s father, Rick Spooner, is an artist who recently completed a commission from a bride and groom. The bride commissioned a painting of her fiancés Oldmobile 442 to be used as her wedding gift for him. The groom commissioned a pen and ink drawing of his 1967 Olds 442 and his best man’s 1967 Camaro to be used as a gift for his best man.

These are not simply paintings and they are not simply about classic cars. These are all about powerful and happy memories associated with the classic cars being captured on canvas. You can be sure that the groom and his best man will both proudly display their respective wedding gifts in a prominent location and have very happy feelings associated with the thoughtful wedding gifts they received from some very caring individuals.

Please share your wedding gift ideas with your fellow brides and grooms by posting your comments below.