When we were planning our wedding, we were surprised at all the superstitions we came across.
They were all essentially the same: If you don’t do this or that or if such and such happens, then you will not have a happy marriage.
Here are a few examples of popular wedding superstitions…
- On our wedding day we had a guest complaining that we should not have scheduled our ceremony for the noon hour because apparently it is bad luck to get married while the minute hand is falling. Instead, you should say your vows when the minute hand on the clock is going upwards. This makes you work together in your married life together.
- Another superstition is that if it rains on your wedding day then you will shed many tears during your married life.
- Alternatively, rain on your wedding day may mean that you will be blessed with many children. …Do you think the many children and many tears are connected somehow? just kidding.
- We have also heard it said that if your wedding dress is ripped on your wedding day then your marriage will end in death. Sounds horrible but shouldn’t that be the goal?
- It is supposed to be a bad omen if the newlywed wife stumbles as she walks into the house – that is why she is carried over the threshold.
- It is recommended that a bride put a penny in her shoe to ensure wealth in her marriage.
- It is popularly considered bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding ceremony.
- Another superstitious belief is that it is good luck for the bride to get married in white.
Whether superstitious or not, we find that many brides have an unspoken expectation that if their wedding day is perfect then they can expect a perfect marriage.
Of course, you should want your wedding day to go well. But don’t put so much pressure on your wedding day.
If only it were as simple as having one good day to make all the future days of your marriage go well too. The truth is that you will have to put a conscious effort and energy into each and every successful day of your marriage.
As you plan your wedding and even on your wedding day, don’t assume that your wedding planning efforts and perfect ceremony and reception are giving you a perfect marriage. Your preoccupation with wedding planning may be hard on your relationship. Make sure that you are finding quality time for one another and that you haven’t lost sight of the one thing that will give you a happy marriage: Loving Commitment to the Successs of Your Relationship
To show you how we have achieved a very happy marriage (going on 6 years now) despite violating quite a few wedding superstitions, we want to give you a copy of our newest book: The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage: How to Keep that Honeymoon Feeling